Program Fee: $100
Single room $450+tax
“Can freedom come from control? The very nature of bondage is control, and yet most of us seek freedom through greater and greater control in our lives. Is there a link between psychological suffering and the pervasive need to feel that we are in control?” – Krishnamurti
The brain needs security to function properly, and being in control of our bodies, our cars, and our finances, gives us a temporary measure of security. But as Krishnamurti points out, “the brain moves security from the physical to the psychological.” We get upset when people and events fail to meet our expectations. We are particularly distressed when we don’t meet our own expectations. Is this because it shows us we are not in control?
“Can life be led without a single control? It can be led completely, freely, in order, without control, when you understand that the controller is the controlled. That means there is only what is and not what should be.” – Krishnamurti
Is this true? Is it possible for you and I to take our hands off the psychological wheel? To let down our psychological burden? Krishnamurti suggests that when we see completely through the falseness there is revealed an “extraordinary quality of intelligence in which there is complete, whole security.” Let’s meet together in dialogue to look as honestly and deeply as we can to understand the truth about control.
“To go far, you must begin very near, but to begin near is very difficult for most of us because we want to escape from “what is,” from the fact of what we are.” – Krishnamurti
Dialogue is an attempt to begin very near by exploring the nature of our own selves as they express themselves in our daily lives. Krishnamurti’s teachings are a point of departure, but the inquiry is our own. We seek understanding not through external sources but through observation of the subjective experience through which the world appears and the expression of that in our relationship with the natural and social world. Inquiring together as a group creates a microcosm of the larger society and a mirror in which we can see our conditioning reflected as we expose ourselves to one another and to ourselves. The aim of group inquiry is not problem-solving or self-improvement but self-discovery. As the self tends to become defensive and resistant to examination when threatened it is important to create a safe environment in which everyone is respected. A dialogue rooted in respectful, affectionate relationship is vastly different from a dialogue of the intellect. This affection is an outcome of listening deeply and requires a suspension of judgment.
Terry O’Connor is a retired psychotherapist who found Krishnamurti’s teachings invaluable in his work. He has been facilitating dialogue since 1992. He and his wife, Kathy Franklin, hosted the annual Memorial Day Krishnamurti Dialogue and Gathering in Maryland for 25 years. In 1989 he published an article in the Psychotherapy Networker entitled “Therapy for a Dying Planet”, and he continues to believe that the single most important way to address the crisis humanity faces today is to understand the consciousness that created it. A dialogue is a microcosm of the human community, an opportunity to see ourselves in the mirror of relationship, to become aware of that which creates our sense of separation, and to discover a communion beyond thought.
Monday- Thursday (basic schedule)
2:30-5:30 Reading, video and/ or dialogue with a short 15 min break
Friday (basic schedule)
11:00 Check out for retreat guests
2:3–5:30 Reading, video and Dialogue with a 15 min break